Thursday, February 12, 2015

Valentine's Day vs. Romance all year

Valentine's Day is just 2 days away. Have you already bought/ordered the flowers, or candy, or that special sensual or kinky gift for your loved one? Do you think it's just an overly commercialized holiday and want no part of it? Do you get excited about the prospect of going out for a "date" on the most romantic night of the year? Or do you roll your eyes at all the red, pink, and hearts that bombard you when you enter any store? Let's not mention the waiting time at any restaurant on Valentine's Day. Does the day make you giddy or snarl?

I have friends who enjoy the holiday and go all out, and others who don't even acknowledge its existence.  Personally, I think it's a bit too commercialized, but I can't help but get into a loving, romantic mood seeing all those hearts, flowers, & stuffed animals.

But ask yourself this question...Do you celebrate romance just once a year?

My husband and I no longer really celebrate Valentine's Day. Okay, let me rephrase, that... I should have said that we celebrate it all year long. :)

I'll admit, my first Valentine's Day with my husband (we were only engaged) I went all out. The decorations, candles, nice dinner at home, wine, yummy dessert, and even the rose petals on the bed. It was the first time in my life I had someone I really wanted to share the holiday with. And boy, was it a wonderful night.

So wonderful, that it was hard to top the following year (I was 3 mo pregnant with twins)... or the next (we had 6 mo old twin boys plus 2 older ones = no extra money).

But as a couple, we knew that we needed more than just one day to show our love for each other. Honestly, I just can't imagine only taking one day out of the year to show more love to the one who is in your heart that they mean so much to you. We took date night whenever we could. We cherished those moments when all the kids were in bed and the house was quiet, and even though we were tired, we just held each other and enjoyed each other's company. Even talked without constant interruptions from the kids. We buy each other cards or write poems to each other just because. Just getting a hug and an "I love you" brings a smile to my face. Granted it's so much easier now that the kids are grown and it's just the two of us most of the time, but it never fails to warm my heart when we sit on the couch to watch tv together and he holds my hand. It's those little things that I treasure.

Dictionary.com defines romance as:
**to court or woo romantically; treat with ardor or chivalrousness:
**to court the favor of or make overtures to; play up to:

Romance should be a part of your everyday life. I'm not saying that every day you have to do something, but make sure your significant other knows how much you care for them. In my opinion, it's the little things done more often that is more romantic than the one big gift or night out a year.

So I challenge you to make romance a regular thing in your life. Not just one night a year.

1 comment:

Stephanie said...

Such Sweetness and Smart advice!