Friday, June 19, 2015

Flirtatious Friday

Have a wonderful Friday and weekend!

Thursday, June 18, 2015

Lost place in series

Have you ever started reading a series (when there's only a few books out), then waiting for the new books you move on to other books but still buy the series, however never getting to them. THEN when you realize there are 12 books in the series you forget where you left off? So what to do? Start from the beginning? Hope you start where you left off?

Well, that was my dilemma when I got back to Gena Showalter's Lords of the Underworld series. *sigh* I remembered book 1 & 2, but really hazy about 3 & 4.  So, I've re-read 3 & 3.5 & now about to start book 4. Since I have all the rest, that will be the book series I'll be reading for the summer since we have several trips planned this summer.

Have you found yourself in that situation? Do you start over? Have you ever re-read an entire series over?  Let's talk :D

Monday, June 01, 2015

Do you like dragons?

Last week was a bit of a doozy. So much going on (still is, but managed to get some free time) this time of the year. Looking forward to June 13th when my life settles for the summer & I can really concentrate on some things I've been lacking in.

Anyway, I got a chance to read the start of a great YA series by Chris Cannon. There are 2 books out so far & recommended by an awesome friend who knows my tastes in books. The books "Going Down in Flames" & "Bridges Burned" center on a 16 year old girl, Bryn, who discovers she's a hybrid dragon & forced to leave the life she knew of humans & family to integrate herself into dragon society. I'm certainly no reviewer, but if you like dragons, you'll really enjoy this book. The twists will keep you on the edge of your seat & intrigued wondering what will happen to Bryn next. Let's just say that I read both books in a week (I gave up many hours of sleep & had to force myself to turn off my kindle to get a few hours). Can't wait for the next one.

If you are interested in more information her site is:
http://www.chriscannonauthor.com/book-store/

Thursday, May 07, 2015

Fifty Shades of Grey movie opinion

I finally broke down and watched the Fifty Shades of Grey movie…uncut. Now mind you, I haven’t ready any of the books other than the free sample amazon gives. I tried but I just couldn’t get past the voice. Every writer has a tone to their writing and sometimes that voice doesn’t hold me. People probably have said that about my writing and that’s fine, I’m okay with that. You can’t please everyone.

Then there’s stores like Walmart putting the books literally next to the Children’s & YA sections. Yes, that’s what they have done in my area. It doesn’t matter that they are wrapped in plastic, the aisle is big enough to put it at the other end.

Sorry, getting off soapbox about my own personal opinions.

But back on track to the movie… There was huge hype about the movie (as there is about the book) but the moment people started watching it, they started crying abuse, physical & emotional. This had me curious about how a movie can make so many people say the same thing, or do they just not understand the lifestyle & misinterpreted it? So I bit the bullet and watched…

Now, I don’t claim to be an absolute expert at the BDSM lifestyle. However having written several erotic romance books with that theme I’ve done my research by lots of reading, talking with several who actually live the lifestyle, and I’ll admit playing with a toy here & there out of curiosity ;) I feel I have a decent understanding of the Dom/sub world. So here is what I saw as I watched the movie.

From the beginning to the end there was a tension to the entire movie. I’ve never really experienced that from a movie before, but the sexual tension was quite thick. I found that interesting that it could be conveyed through the screen. Says something about the actors.  But please remember these are all just my opinions.

It’s obvious there’s an instant attraction between Anastasia & Christian. It’s like that in most romance movies/books. Nothing wrong with that. The point is to get them together in interesting & fun ways, and let’s not forget about the conflict.

Problem #1…Ana was a virgin! She was about to graduate from college and still hadn’t gone all the way? Okay, yes, there are some that are waiting, but where has she been to be so naïve? Stuck in Jane Austin books and old literature books? In today’s society sex is everywhere. Ana came off as a very sheltered girl, but she lived away from home & attended college. Hello…gotta have some exposure.

But then Christian “remedies” the situation by having sex with her – taking her virginity - and sleeping in the same bed with her even though he told her he doesn’t do that. Ana may have been ready for a sexual relationship but nothing as intense as Christian. The sexual part of a relationship is very new to her (do we even know if she had previous boyfriends?) but to throw in all these other limitations and rules, yeah the immaturity will of course show itself big time. Which it did with Ana. She didn’t understand why he did the things he did or even if what she was feeling was “normal”. Throw on top of it that she couldn’t talk about their relationship with no one. Come on, all girls need someone to vent to or just to compare notes. She lived with her best friend. They never once talked? Hard to believe.

Basically, Ana wasn’t ready for someone like Christian with her sexual immaturity.

Problem #2…Christian has been doing Dom/sub play since he was 15 with a friend of his mother’s? Really? So essentially she took him under her wing, probably a virgin himself, and taught him HER way of Dom/sub play. That doesn’t mean everything he did was right, but the way he was taught. Then she became his mentor of sorts. A confidant as he put it. But he also didn’t assure Ana that he was no longer playing with her anymore either.

Problem #3…Christian’s behavior. Yes, he’s a dominate personality, and with his money it’s easy to get what he wants, but his possessiveness is borderline control freak, in the worst sense. He butted his way into her life, upgrading her ticket without her knowing and sold her car without her permission, but not once did she tell him not to do it. The contract said Friday thru Sunday. What did it say about any other part of her life? Back to her being naïve, awed, and lustful.

Oh, and let’s not forget about him not explaining everything to her. Bondage takes a trust and that begins by everything being explained. Christian just wanted her to experience it but not really tell her why he was doing it. He was a bit too controlling for my taste.

Problem #4…The contract. The contract isn’t exactly the problem, but the way he insisted on it, yet still “played scenes” with her. Then Ana’s show of sitting down and negotiating it but still wouldn’t sign it just isn’t right. A contract – or laid out rules – is a very important part of a Dom/sub relationship. It could be the most important part. If you lay out rules, you follow them or get punished. Simple. Life is like that. You break the law, you go to jail or a speeding ticket. Yet, it came up time and time again, but she wouldn’t sign it. She wouldn’t commit to it. So Christian shouldn’t have played. Period.

Problem #5…No Aftercare!! After a scene (A time period of BDSM activities) there was no aftercare, which is defined as “the time after a BDSM scene or play session in which the participants calm down, discuss the previous events and their personal reactions to them, and slowly come back in touch with reality.” Poor Ana got none of this. He just got out of bed and left her because he didn’t sleep in the same bed as his sub. There was little care and talking afterwards that we saw. No wonder she was so confused about his actions and her feelings. This is hugely important.

Those were just the main things I noticed and bugged me about the movie. I can see where people would say it was abuse, but he never once told her she couldn’t see certain people or that she couldn’t do specific things.  Yes, he was irritated when he didn’t tell him about going to see her mother, but my man would be too. Hello, she called him when she was drunk. He tried to be a big presence in her life, wanting her to live with him on the weekends, but she never once told him no or to go away – until the end.

And excuse me, but she told him to punish her. She willingly bent over and counted each strike. She wanted to experience it. Then she freaked out. It was clearly killing him to do it, but he is one to follow through and she never looked at his face. Again…this is where abiding by a contract or rules is really important since punishments is a subject to be negotiated as well.

But then, their entire fight at the end didn’t really make sense to me anyway. All I know there were lots of emotions riding high and Christian refused to admit his love for her and Ana truied to make him do it when he wasn’t ready. *sigh* Yeah, that’s a big conflict there.

I’m always up for discussion on this. Thanks for letting me vent. Let me remind you that these are just my own personal opinions I felt I had to get out of my head.
Oh, one really good thing was that the sex scenes were hot! The actors had great chemistry … and a nice ass. :D

Wednesday, April 08, 2015

Visualizations

I'm hard at work at rewriting/updating/extending Testing Passion. I'm hoping to get it to a publisher before the end of this month. :)  I thought I'd share my vision of Damien, the main male character of Testing Passion. Still looking for a picture to represent my female character.  Enjoy the nummies and Happy Hump Day!  :P

Friday, March 13, 2015

Happy Friday the 13th... AGAIN!

Wow! Two Friday the 13ths in a row. I know that doesn't happen often. I hope everyone has a day full of luck rather than superstitious bad luck *looking around cautiously* No black cats. No walking under ladders. Throw salt over the shoulder.
I'm just going to sit here and work on more chapters for Dragon Riders 3: Wary Hearts *doing happy dance*

Wednesday, March 04, 2015

Wednesday, February 18, 2015

Wednesday Funny

Have a wonderful day!
 
 

Monday, February 16, 2015

Motivational Monday

"Believe you can, and you're halfway there." ~ Theodore Roosevelt
 
Have a wonderful week! 

Saturday, February 14, 2015

Happy Valentine's Day!

 
I hope everyone has a romantic weekend!

Friday, February 13, 2015

Happy Friday the 13th!

I love Friday the 13th! I don't think these days are bad luck. In fact, 13 is my favorite number. :) It's also the title of one of my favorite horror movie series and I enjoy watching them around it's name sake.

In fact I've already watched my favorite of the series this morning... the 2009 release of Friday the 13th.
 
Of course nothing beats the original Friday the 13th, but I tend to favor the 2009 movie because of a certain dreamy actor. :P Yes, I have a star crush on Jared Padalecki *sigh*
 
So tell me ... how superstitious are you about Friday the 13th? Do you like the movies? Have you ever watched the TV series? Which movie is your favorite?
 
A curious mind wants to know...
 
Oh, and want some fun about the Friday the 13th franchise? Take my quiz!
 
 
 
 

Thursday, February 12, 2015

Valentine's Day vs. Romance all year

Valentine's Day is just 2 days away. Have you already bought/ordered the flowers, or candy, or that special sensual or kinky gift for your loved one? Do you think it's just an overly commercialized holiday and want no part of it? Do you get excited about the prospect of going out for a "date" on the most romantic night of the year? Or do you roll your eyes at all the red, pink, and hearts that bombard you when you enter any store? Let's not mention the waiting time at any restaurant on Valentine's Day. Does the day make you giddy or snarl?

I have friends who enjoy the holiday and go all out, and others who don't even acknowledge its existence.  Personally, I think it's a bit too commercialized, but I can't help but get into a loving, romantic mood seeing all those hearts, flowers, & stuffed animals.

But ask yourself this question...Do you celebrate romance just once a year?

My husband and I no longer really celebrate Valentine's Day. Okay, let me rephrase, that... I should have said that we celebrate it all year long. :)

I'll admit, my first Valentine's Day with my husband (we were only engaged) I went all out. The decorations, candles, nice dinner at home, wine, yummy dessert, and even the rose petals on the bed. It was the first time in my life I had someone I really wanted to share the holiday with. And boy, was it a wonderful night.

So wonderful, that it was hard to top the following year (I was 3 mo pregnant with twins)... or the next (we had 6 mo old twin boys plus 2 older ones = no extra money).

But as a couple, we knew that we needed more than just one day to show our love for each other. Honestly, I just can't imagine only taking one day out of the year to show more love to the one who is in your heart that they mean so much to you. We took date night whenever we could. We cherished those moments when all the kids were in bed and the house was quiet, and even though we were tired, we just held each other and enjoyed each other's company. Even talked without constant interruptions from the kids. We buy each other cards or write poems to each other just because. Just getting a hug and an "I love you" brings a smile to my face. Granted it's so much easier now that the kids are grown and it's just the two of us most of the time, but it never fails to warm my heart when we sit on the couch to watch tv together and he holds my hand. It's those little things that I treasure.

Dictionary.com defines romance as:
**to court or woo romantically; treat with ardor or chivalrousness:
**to court the favor of or make overtures to; play up to:

Romance should be a part of your everyday life. I'm not saying that every day you have to do something, but make sure your significant other knows how much you care for them. In my opinion, it's the little things done more often that is more romantic than the one big gift or night out a year.

So I challenge you to make romance a regular thing in your life. Not just one night a year.

Wednesday, February 11, 2015

Wednesday Funny

Have a wonderful Wednesday!

Monday, February 09, 2015

Motivational Monday

A professional writer is an amateur who didn’t quit. ~Richard Bach

Saturday, February 07, 2015